By Veronica U.-K.
The term social introvert is one of the funniest oxymorons I think I’ve heard. I mean the only type of introvert is obviously antisocial and has severe anxiety if someone even looks at them. Naturally, extroverts are the only social creatures. Duh.
People make assumptions about what it means to be an introvert, so today I’m disproving some myths of introversion.
MYTH #1: INTROVERTS ARE ARROGANT
Actually we are just socially cautious. Many times, we can come across as a bit cold, or even aloof, but in reality we are preoccupied processing the situation and information (often overanalyzing). Additionally, we prefer to keep to ourselves, when we are surrounded by people we don’t know well. We don’t think we are better than everyone else, although we may come across as snobbish. I mean you don’t walk up to a random person and tell them the last 500 years of your family history, right?
MYTH #2: INTROVERTS ARE RUDE
We can be blunt, seem impatient, and possibly bored, but that is simply because small talk bores us. We prefer intimate conversations. Also, we may become mentally drained, if we are surrounded by too may people for long periods of time. This may cause people to perceive us as being rude, as well as avoidant, especially when we decline invites to parties or any gathering. This is simply a characteristic of our temperament.
MYTH #3: INTROVERTS HAVE NOTHING TO SAY
Very often, we have a lot to say, but we just don’t feel the need to say it. Perhaps it is the phrasing f the statement in on mind (we don’t want to come off as too aggressive or rude). Perhaps it is the other parties involved and we have an idea of how they will respond, and don’t want to start some fight. Not saying something does;t mean you have nothing to say. It means you can gage when it is appropriate.
MYTH #4 INTROVERTS DON’T KNOW HOW TO HAVE FUN
Trust us, if we really wanted to we would have fun. Having fun doesn’t always have to include being social. Sometimes we just like to be alone and listen to music or even read a book.
MYTH #5: INTROVERTS HAVE SECRETS THAT’S WHY THEY ARE SO QUIET
Ummm….everyone has secrets. Being an introvert means we simply do not feel the need to publicly announce everything we do or believe. Just because I don’t put ever update my relationship status, doesn’t mean that I don’t have any. Just because I don’t post about saving an endangered species, it doesn’t mean I don’t care. Sometimes publicity is just asking for attention, which none of us want from 500 people at once.
So there you go! Introverts, I hope I helped you consider why extroverts may give you problems, regarding your behavior. Embrace who you are and take the positives.